“You can find something truly important in an ordinary minute.”
– Mitch Albom
Around my new apartment, I’ve finally started to hang some artwork and photos on the bare white walls. I’ll admit, it definitely makes it feel more “homey.” With each photo I choose, there’s a back story: a fun weekend with friends, a birthday celebration, our first date at the zoo, and of course, my family. All of these moments in time are important to me in one way or another and in some ways, define who I am as a person.
A picture truly is worth a thousand words, however, sometimes, I really wish I had a video of a series of moments that I could hang around the apartment. Most of these moments I wish I had “taped” are moments that aren’t even that extraordinary, like a movie date with a friend, or a car ride down the shore, but it’s that moment that I want to be able to relive because it was in someway important to me. Most of these moments I don’t even have photos of, they just stick with me and pop in my head every so often.
Of course, there are instances that trigger these memories to resurface. The mention of scary movies, particularly the movie “The Ring,” and I’m right back in the dark theater, in the front row next to my best guy friend, holding his hand for dear life and burrowing my head into his right shoulder. We were freshmen in high school and I was so frightened of this movie that I’m pretty sure I was hiding for more than half of it. At the end, we stood up and he shook his hand out, sore from me squeezing the living daylights out of it. He made a joke, something like “good thing it’s not baseball season,” and we laughed and headed outside to wait for our ride to pick us up. This was 10 years ago and every time I think about it, I swear it feels like it happened yesterday. I don’t have a picture from that night, the guy and I barely even talk anymore but this is one of those moments I will cherish forever. Just an ordinary movie date.
I catch myself reminiscing frequently. Some moments I’ll share with my boyfriend or friends; others, I still like to keep to myself. I have “movie memories” (as I call them) about all my friends, even ones that I’m no longer close with, however, these are all instances in my life that have helped shape me into the person I am today. Yes, some of the movie memories are quite embarrassing (like when I was 16 and I said a 50-year old woman shouldn’t have a belly button ring and the woman I was talking to raised her shirt up and said “Oh, you mean me?”), heart-breaking (the afternoon my high school sweetheart broke up with me – we dated 6 years, I was 20 when it ended), or just down right silly (hiding in the kitchen cabinets to “surprise” my Mom for her 30th birthday – I was 5), I would never trade any of these moments for the world.
I have no regrets and am thankful for the many memories I have already made but look forward to the ones that haven’t even been thought of yet.