Always A Bridesmaid…

I was just updating my Twitter profile, which is a lot harder than you would think. How are you supposed to describe yourself in 140 characters or less? I enjoy Twitter for the short tweets but for a profile biography? It’s tough. It was definitely time for an update though since I’m no longer “newly relocated to PA from NJ” (we just renewed our lease; Yes, I’ve been here for almost a year already – time flies!) and I think it’s pretty obvious I’m a “social media addict.” I tried to pick out the most relevant things about me that weren’t too obvious, like, “I have brown hair (sometimes)!” or “I’m a Cuban that can’t really speak Spanish!” or even “I’m almost 26 and have no idea what I want to do with my life!” You know, the things that glow off me when you first meet me.

So after I typed a few things, then hastily deleted them, I decided to figure out what I do on a daily basis: go to work, go to the gym, sleep. Work is already listed there, as is where I went to college and what year I graduated (2009 seems forever ago, btw). So, I wrote “Gym Rat” because that’s what my boyfriend calls me. Plus, “gym rat” only takes ups 7 characters as opposed to “gym lover” that takes up 9 or “i go to the gym a lot” which is 21. Next I wrote “chocolate lover” but sounded so boring, so I deleted “lover” and wrote “eater” – again, boring. Finally, I was able to find a word that I liked, wasn’t too many characters and described me perfectly: devourer. YUP.

Thinking of one last little tidbit was hard. In my opinion, it’s always so difficult to write about yourself. I don’t want to come off as bitchy, nor conceited, nor self-loathing. It’s almost like you have to walk a fine line before crossing into any of those areas. I let it marinate for a few minutes then decided that “Always a bridesmaid, never a bride” fit me perfectly. I tried wording it differently by incorporating the 2008 Katherine Heigl movie “27 Dresses” (which is what I’ve been referred to lately) into it but nothing seemed to work, or fit the required limit of characters. So, there ya go, Always a bridesmaid, never a bride is what I went with and it’s the truth and I’m ok with it.

Since graduation, it’s been a nonstop parade of weddings. My friends, my family – everyone I know is getting married, has already gotten married, or is planning to get married soon. It started off slow, only one wedding the one year, no weddings the following year then BAM, 4 weddings last year, 5 weddings this year and I already have 2 scheduled for next year. Something must be in the water, which is why I’ve switched to bottled water only, please. I don’t mind being in weddings though, I’m excited for my friends and happy to help and be there for them on one of the biggest days of their lives. Luckily for my bank account though, I wasn’t asked to be in the bridal party for all of these weddings. Could you imagine? I’d be so broke, you’d see me on the street corner in Philly with a sign that says “Broke because of weddings, please help!” – and quite honestly, I think people (ok, mostly women) would give me change because they understand how expensive it is to have a wedding.

Right now, in my life, I’m not at a point where I’m ready to settle down and get married. I do not see my wedding anytime soon in my future and I’m ok with that. Life is not a race; I’m not going to lose at life if I’m the last of my friends to get married. Marriage is something I’d like to do, eventually, maybe in a few years, but I’m not looking for that right now. I’m pretty ok with the way my life is going right now, however, there are a few things I personally would like to accomplish before I make that commitment to someone else. Things that I’d like to be able to say I did on my own that put me in a better place before I got married. Nothing extreme, like, climb Mt. Everest by myself backwards, but things like, figure out what career path I’d like to take or at the very least, find a job that makes me happy. I’m a firm believer in making yourself happy before trying to make others happy. Again, there is no right or wrong way, life is not a race, this is just how I see it. So, for right now, I’m happy always being a bridesmaid and not a bride.